Home Work

I signed up for an e-mail course on grief work. From one of the books. Gary Roe has excellent free on line resources. The first lesson was on  getting together with a friend and safe people to met with, putting together a team. Support net work.  A journal has been mentioned already. I have been doing that.

I grief work in the past in the 90's when my sister completed suicide, and a few years ago when my mother died of brain cancer, has given me some experience.

My friend said she is writing again. That was great news. We have giving ourselves permission to move ahead and face what is next and do some things that help us. Make some plans and think about a next step.I am hoping some one can be helped by this blog, but if not I know it is helping me.

Part of the problem in early grieving you are crying and cannot really read words on a page in a book because of the teas. I was grateful for my auto pilot chore list to help me through the day knowing that. And I had a list in my head of things I knew would have to happen in the coming days. My daughter had went down a list of those before hubby passed. I knew them but also knew there was a timing thing as well. A couple of other unknown items cropped up and got added to that list. But it progressed. Is still progressing. It is a process one step at a time.

The list I know you are wondering ~ generally speaking
services life celebration gathering of family
notifications
budget  accounts phones etc.
dealing with clothes what to do with the "stuff".

Rings getting my stones re set no hurry on that or get my wedding ring sized for my other hand, or getting the stones changed for colored ones.

This takes; time three months later yea still dealing with this list.

I have a five year plan to down size, if I can still mow and keep up with my garden, use the laundry in the basement, if not will re evaluate then if I can keep the house. Time will tell. There is so much stuff here my looms spinning wheel here and hubby's as well.

Unfinished business...
French doors that did not fit what to do with them?
She Shed to paint in.
Shop stuff sort and declutter started working on that last weekend.
Got an idea today that some of it might be going to the habit store, but of course the kids want some of it they say but if they do not come to get it in a reasonable amount of time guess what it is leaving the premises.

Having rain today and plans got changed of my helper today. Oh well no hurry I suppose.